Over the years, I've come to the conclusion that there are many flavors of bisexuality, which must be why it is so hard to find compatable partners. "Bi" can mean so many different things, unlike the descriptive words "gay" or "straight."
For some, the label "bisexual" means that they are mostly straight with an occasional, fleeting desire for someone of the same sex. It's a very "discreet" thing, not anything to make a big deal about or d more...
Over the years, I've come to the conclusion that there are many flavors of bisexuality, which must be why it is so hard to find compatable partners. "Bi" can mean so many different things, unlike the descriptive words "gay" or "straight."
For some, the label "bisexual" means that they are mostly straight with an occasional, fleeting desire for someone of the same sex. It's a very "discreet" thing, not anything to make a big deal about or disrupt a lifestyle over. On the other hand, it can mean, "I'm mostly gay/lesbian but I had a relationship with the opposite sex once, so I guess that means I'm kind of bi. I don't know if I'd ever do it again, though."
It can mean that a person is basically monogamous with a relationship with the same sex in the past. It can mean that a person would like to have a relationship with both a man AND a woman at the same time in their lives. It can mean that one is equally as important as the other.
It's no wonder that the word "bisexual" leads to confusion and avoidance, even among those people who may call themselves by that descriptor. It's hard to know what it means to any individual person. It is really wading into the "shades of gray," which is by nature uncomfortable for human beings.
Its mainly because of the trend of human sexuality that make it difficult to define. Most Polyamory or polygamous lifestyles are still shunned even though homosexual marriage is being embraced in certain states and countries. Its unfair and slightly hypocritical as well.
Men have either been one or the other. Bisexuality, in my instance, is a deeper longing for a great relationship with another male on a MALE level, but also sexual with both him and a female. Its a longing to fulfill all more...
Its mainly because of the trend of human sexuality that make it difficult to define. Most Polyamory or polygamous lifestyles are still shunned even though homosexual marriage is being embraced in certain states and countries. Its unfair and slightly hypocritical as well.
Men have either been one or the other. Bisexuality, in my instance, is a deeper longing for a great relationship with another male on a MALE level, but also sexual with both him and a female. Its a longing to fulfill all avenues of human sexuality while maintaining a loving relationship with 2 people.
We are still working toward seeking to get respect for being who we are and understanding what it means. It can be frustrating. less...
St. Paul, you are a pioneer for many of us, I think. How I long for an intimate relationship with a woman that I connect to on every other level! Surely there are more of us out there...it is a big world (or country, for that matter)!
You said it! I couldn't agree more. As a bisexual (who's interested in a monogamous relationship with a woman) I f ind that lesbians avoid you like the plague. Guys want to take you home to their girlfriends. With so much baggage around the bi label it's no wonder I'm starting to feel a bit left out. Not all bi's want a polyamorous arangement. I'm not downing those who do, I'm just saying it puts me on the defensive, having to explain myself and what my motives are. Also when you're bi you hav more...
You said it! I couldn't agree more. As a bisexual (who's interested in a monogamous relationship with a woman) I f ind that lesbians avoid you like the plague. Guys want to take you home to their girlfriends. With so much baggage around the bi label it's no wonder I'm starting to feel a bit left out. Not all bi's want a polyamorous arangement. I'm not downing those who do, I'm just saying it puts me on the defensive, having to explain myself and what my motives are. Also when you're bi you have to come out to each partner you date. When you're gay you just come out and start dating and no longer have to explain anything. It's definitely not easy being bi. less...
My rainbow is such a multitude of colors, I cannot begin to define it.
I indentified as bi a little less than 10 years ago and have struggled a bit with figuring out where I fit in.
My long term partners have nearly all been men, due to the small dating pool in my rural area or just my past dating experience I believe.
I've explored polyamory as well as monogamy and still find myself trying to define who exactly I am.
There is no one size fits all in sexuality or love, so I guess I'll more...
My rainbow is such a multitude of colors, I cannot begin to define it.
I indentified as bi a little less than 10 years ago and have struggled a bit with figuring out where I fit in.
My long term partners have nearly all been men, due to the small dating pool in my rural area or just my past dating experience I believe.
I've explored polyamory as well as monogamy and still find myself trying to define who exactly I am.
There is no one size fits all in sexuality or love, so I guess I'll just keep trying them on til I find the one that fits perfectly for me. less...
